Pronouns, those little words that take the place of nouns in many sentences, are one of the parts of the English language that seems to be changing most rapidly, and the part where teenage spoken English is most different from academic written English. To be fair, many of the issues I'll discuss on this page also show up in informal writing, some of it from respectable sources, so it isn't just a USA teenager thing. Teen talk does press the issue to the extreme, though.
Standard English pronouns stand in for nouns and have person, number, and case to help the reader figure out which noun to look back to. We generally look back to the most recent noun that agrees to figure out what the pronoun is standing in for:
George and Martha went out for dinner to celebrate his birthday.
It was George's birthday, not Martha's, because of the masculine gender of his. Here's the standard setup:
English doesn't have a pronoun that says "one person, but I don't want to specify gender," so even a very educated speaker is very likely to say, "Someone left their book in the class." The one of someone demands a singular pronoun, and we used to default to masculine, but that's not politically acceptable any more, and his/her is awkward, so speakers usually go for the plural to stay out of trouble, and in this case there's no chance for confusion.
The problems with just using "they/them/their" as a singular pronoun are first, that extremely careful writers and speakers see it as an error (It's the kind of thing that might get your job application rejected) and second that the pronouns are still plural, so confusion results when you have singular and plural antecedents in the text:
Parents think that they should have control over the pregnant teenager's decision [concerning abortion], but in reality it's ultimately not their decision at all. Even though the teenager is still young, they made the decision to have it and it is up to them as to what they will do with the baby. The parents believe that they know the best decision for them but what they don't know is what their teenager wants. The final decision of the fate of the baby will, in the end, come down to the pregnant teenager.
This little quotation has one singular female (the pregnant teenager) and one group (the parents). Obviously, because of the they and them:
Only that last little sentence shows that the student wrote exactly the opposite of what she wanted to say. I think it's very sad that the writer didn't have the singular feminine pronouns available so she could write this:
Even though the teenager is still young, she made the decision to have it and it is up to her as to what she will do with the baby. The parents believe that they know the best decision for her but what they don't know is what their teenager wants.
This one is also related to informal conversation. Though "you" and "your" technically mean the reader or listener, in casual conversation and writing the pronoun often means "people in general" or even "the writer of this paper." Most of the time, the effect is simply casual, informal, and non-businesslike, but sometimes disaster results:
One of the saddest events in the life of a middle-aged woman is when her breasts sag down to your navel.
It's audience awareness. Always ask yourself whether the audience will quickly and easily figure this out. Or will you mislead them with a strategy that works in speaking but not in writing?
And don't retreat into defensiveness. Don't say, "Well if they were as smart as I am, they could figure this out" or "If they knew as much as I know about the topic, they would understand." They don't. Your job is to inform people, so take it seriously and eliminate all the false pathways and confusions in your writing.
More than one student has told me that written pronouns are correct when they feel "off balance and awkward." That's not much of a guide, though standard usage will feel odd if your original language was far from standard. Here are a couple of problems that keep coming up:
Me isn't informal. It's just the object form. So are him and her.
The word is vanishing from common use, but when you use it, save it for objects. You aren't sounding educated when you just throw it into a sentence; you sound ignorant.
The word has two uses: reflexive (an action that comes back on the speaker) and intensive.
One source comments:
The word shouldn't appear as a substitute for I or me (my wife and myself were delighted to see you). Using it that way is thought somehow to be modest, as if the reference were less direct. Yet it's no less direct, and this use may cause the reader to assume your are trying to be funny—or that you are somewhat foolish.
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Revised 8/10/17 • Page author: Curtis Allen • e-mail: email@example.com.